As far as dating tips for women go, there is no “one size fits all” logic. There is a lot of difference between a young woman in her teens or 20s and a woman in her 30s and 40s. While most women generally want the same outcome, there are a few things that women in their 30s and 40s know about dating which they simply didn’t focus on as much in their younger years.
And so, why we talked to some of the top dating experts of today to see what they saw as the most important advice for women in their 30s and 40s. After going through what they said, we came up with these 15 dating tips for women who are out of their 20s and want something more serious and long-term.
1. Know the non-negotiables for yourself
These are instant deal breakers for you – a non-monogamist, a smoker, a cat-lover, etc.—that immediately tell you to move on so that you do not end up wasting your time. Relationship expert Dr. Melanie Mills says try not to include financial or physical attributes. Focus on personality type, character traits, and value systems.
2. Don’t limit yourself.
In your 20s you might have not been very open to dating a guy previously married or one that had a child. However, the chances are that a man in his 40s, been married or has kids. Stay open to men that have been divorced.
3. No lies. Not even inflating the truth.
Yes, you want to impress each other, but it is a no-brainer that honesty from the start is a prerequisite to trust. If the description of your date was inaccurate then the remaining of the relationship might be filled with deceptions too.
4. No texting and calling rules.
Rules like ‘wait 3 days to call back’ are no longer valid. If you treat love and dating like a game, someone—or both of you—will end up losing it. If you want to, call back in the next 24 hours. It has to be spontaneous and honest if you want to start a healthy relationship and be respected.